DAVID CERVERA THERAPY

You're Haunted by the Feeling That You've Done Something Wrong

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Even if others say “you did your best”, you can’t quite believe it.
Maybe it’s guilt over a specific event. Or the feeling that you’re always falling short.
You replay things in your mind, wondering what you should have done differently.
Even in quiet moments, guilt creeps in: “Did I mess that up? Did I hurt someone? Am I a bad person?”

If you're stuck in self-blame, therapy can help you understand where that guilt comes from and how to move forward without carrying it all alone.

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What Chronic Guilt Might Look Like

• A constant inner critic or sense of failure

• Obsessing over past mistakes or regrets

• Feeling responsible for other people’s pain

• Struggling to forgive yourself, even after an apology

• Feeling like you’re never “good enough”

• Avoiding people or situations that remind you of what happened

• Difficulty receiving kindness or compliments

• Shame that feels stuck in your body

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Where Guilt Comes From

Guilt can be a healthy signal, a sign of your values and your care for others. But when it becomes constant or disproportionate, it often points to deeper patterns:

• Childhood conditioning (e.g., “It’s your fault,” “Don’t upset anyone”)

• Religious or cultural pressure

• Trauma, people-pleasing, or perfectionism

• Unmet needs for repair, safety, or acceptance

• Fear that if you let go of guilt, you’ll lose your goodness

Therapy isn’t about telling you you’ve done nothing wrong. It’s about helping you relate to your past, and to yourself, with honesty and kindness.

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How Therapy Can Help with Guilt

• Explore the roots of your guilt and how it shows up in your life

• Learn to distinguish between healthy responsibility and toxic shame

• Build self-compassion without avoiding accountability

• Gently unpack unresolved experiences or trauma

• Reclaim a sense of worth that isn’t based on being perfect

• Stop defining yourself by your mistakes

You don’t have to carry this alone. You don’t have to stay stuck.

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My Approach

I work with people who feel weighed down by guilt, shame, and self-criticism.
Together, we create a space that is honest, non-judgemental and emotionally safe, where you can speak what’s been unspeakable and still be met with care.
My approach is relational, trauma-aware, and LGBTQ+ affirming.

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Therapy for Guilt and Self-Blame in London and Online

If guilt is clouding your relationships, your confidence, or your peace of mind, therapy can help you loosen its grip — and reconnect with your wholeness.

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